Order is a good thing. And so is discipline. Be an example of what an organized and disciplined person is like and follow the rule that you have set. Your spouse should also maintain order in the family and demonstrate that your family will be united and friendly as long as there is some level of order in all spheres of your family life. Have schedules for your kids and yourself and know when you have meals or go to bed. Set aside time for entertainment and other important activities.